Are you in love with your business
partner? Not just for their love of numbers, the company you have created together, or their customer service skills, but their cute little nose, their manly smell or the way they make your knees go weak with a passionate kiss?
Whoa, back up. Passionate kiss? Can entrepreneurs do that sort of thing?
They can and they do! Even though the U.S. Census Bureau does not provide exact data on the number of businesses own by couples, they do show that approximately 3 million businesses are owned equally by men and women, estimating that the vast majority of these are businesses owned by an “entrepreneurial couple”. It would wrong of us to assume that none of these couples are romantically involved. Out of 3 million…that sure is a lot of lovin’ in the office.
In addition, the phenomenon occurs even more regularly when applied to small businesses with less than 10 employees. Apparently when people live together, laugh together and decide to build a life together, the imagined life of working side by side through the long hours required of business ownership is a logical next step. And it is. They trust each other, they enjoy being together and they are often passionate about the same things. These couples jump into the business with all of the passion that got them into bed the first time and it is a beautiful, passionate journey; most of the time.
To ensure it is a passionate and wonderful journey all of the time,
here are 5 things to consider: 1. Take a break.
Not from the business, but from each other. Go for a walk, go on vacation and go out with friends…alone. You simply have to have moments apart so you have something to talk about when you come back together. No one wants to be the boring folks ignoring each other over dinner and no one wants to be the bickering couple either. Spending time in separate locations keeps you both interesting and able to be just a little bit nicer when you are together. 2. Take care of the couple first.
Someday the kids will be gone, the business will be gone and you will be left staring at the person you decided to build a life with. Don’t wake up and wonder how you ended up in bed with a stranger. Be romantic. Be spontaneous. Be a flirt. Step away from everything but each other once in a while. You deserve it. 3. Set clear goals.
There is nothing worse than working side by side hour after hour only to realize you were both going in different directions. Knowing where you are going, when you want to get there and who is doing which tasks is essential. Deciding your direction now
, when everyone is calm, is a better plan than waiting till you hit a fork in the road; because that fork could very well be used to stab someone in the leg. 4. Hire help.
Someone out there likes to clean toilets and I bet it is neither of you. Someone also knows how to fix a computer, balance the books, and run social media. Let them. Make a list of everything that needs to be done- and what has to be done by you - then farm out the rest. The trick is to use the time you are not doing menial tasks to earn money to pay for the people doing those tasks or to take care of the couple as talked about in point two. 5. Don’t be the boss.
You can kiss your entrepreneurial partner, but you probably don’t want to kiss the boss. The boss is a Big Ol’ Stinking Slob. They think they are always right, use volume and intimidation instead of effective communication and would rather watch others work than participate in work. If you are acting like the boss and your partner doesn’t like it you can be fired. That firing usually means the kids and the house are divided and happily ever after is not going to be the end of your story. Be kind. Be helpful. Be a partner. Don’t be a stinker: don’t be a boss. Bonus Point: You need other people
. And you have to let them into this crazy project you are doing together. Enlist the help of a coach, an accountant, a lawyer and probably a therapist (better early on than when it is too late!). Well-meaning friends and family do not know what you are going through, and truth be told, you probably don’t either. There are people out there who do, and people who can help you lay out a game plan that will keep you sane, prosperous and most importantly, together. Let them.
Now go kiss your big ol bundle of entrepreneurial passion- and don’t stop till their knees go weak. But, do it fast, you have work to do
Let’s face it; everyone has a few personality traits that can be a bit of a…pain in the neck. But for the most part, they’re harmful. So you don’t like it when your green beans touch your pork-chop, or you tend to talk a little too long when you’re on the phone, it’s probably not going to be the downfall of your business
or the unraveling of your family
. The following personality traits, however, are going to cause some serious difficulties in your life, and it’s recommended that you do something to make some changes, stat. 1.) You focus on the negative.
No one wants to be around a Debbie Downer, but have you ever tried working for one? Don’t defend yourself by saying, “Well there’s always room for improvement.” Sometimes a job well done is just a job well done, and it needs to be left at that. Could your employee have turned in that report a day sooner? Would you have done anything with it if it had been
turned in a day sooner? No? Then let it go. No one will want to work for you
if nothing they do is ever good enough. 2.) You misplace your frustrations.
Everyone has a bad day once in a while, but that doesn’t mean you are allowed to scream at your employees when you are really still upset about your alarm not going off this morning. Or maybe you yell at your husband during your late night phone call when in reality you just haven’t seen him in a month and you miss him. If you’re upset about something, address it
. Don’t let your receptionist or your spouse take the brunt of your bad mood. 3.) You’re apathetic.
An individual who is apathetic appears to not care. You may care a great deal about the goings on in your daily life, but you have to act like it for others to get it. An example would be if a costly mistake occurs and you say, “Oh well, let’s not do it again.” A caring person would want to determine why the mistake was made and what can be done to prevent it from happening again. Remember, if you don’t care about the work being done, why would anyone else? 4.) You nag.
A nagging personality is one of the most draining personalities to be around, and why? Because you are never fully alone when you are with a nagger. Everything you do is under constant scrutiny. Are you going to turn that in on time? Are you doing that right? Will they like it? Are you following all
the directions? Exhausting, isn’t it? So stop. When you ask someone to do something, let them do it. Their process for completing a task is fully their own; you don’t have a say. Assign a task and then wait until either the task is complete or the deadline arrives before you make your critiques. 5.) You don’t listen.
Knowing how to really listen
(and I mean really
listen, not just sit there quietly waiting for the other person to finish so you can say whatever it is you want to say), is one of the most invaluable traits there is. The fact is, you are not
always right and you do not
know everything. If you need to make a conscious effort to stop talking, then do it.
The problem with most of these personality traits is that the people that have them don’t realize they have them. Take a second to really examine yourself, every day, to make sure you’re not falling into one of these traps. The most successful teams are happy teams, and you want a happy, successful team
It seems like a cheesy topic, I know, but the fact is many people today still struggle with feeling confident with their actions. Your personal opinion of yourself holds an incredible amount of weight. After all, if perception is reality, low self-confidence is equivalent to shooting yourself in the foot.
So instead of continuously rooting against yourself, apply a few of these tips and see what it would be like to feel unstoppable
. 1.) Dress the part.
Of course no one should judge a book by its cover, and clothes certainly do not make the man, but there is a definite shift that happens when you see yourself for the first time in a striking suit or gorgeous dress. The feeling of “Wow, I look really
good” creates a sense of surprise in the mind, allowing room to think to yourself, “I wonder what else I’ve been holding back
Plus, your reactions to how people treat you are a huge part of your identity.
Changing your clothes changes these reactions. If you want to command respect, you first have to dress like you deserve it. 2.) Work out.
Contrary to your probable initial snap judgement, this has nothing to do with looks (although it certainly doesn’t hurt). Pushing yourself physically is the easiest way to retrain your brain to combat negative self-talk. You’ve run 3 miles and think you can’t take another step? Take another step. There, you’ve already proven that you can do more than you think
Furthermore, naturally puts you in a better mood. Did you know the feeling of finishing a difficult workout is often listed as better
than the feeling provided by anti-depressants? It’s true. So get off the couch and go for a walk, that little boost in your mood will do wonders for your self-confidence.3.) Do something for you.
Since we just discussed a few benefits of exercise, I’ll list one more; it’s good for you. Doing things for you, like engaging in regular exercise, eating healthy or taking a bubble bath once in a while show that you value yourself enough to take care of yourself. 4.) Take risks.
One definition of low self-confidence is always believing you’ll fail at everything you attempt, which can obviously make it pretty difficult to step out on a limb once in a while. However, this is exactly why it is critical to take risks; because you aren’t going to fail
every time. Is there a position at your company you’ve been eyeing but are afraid you’d never get? Apply anyway! Who knows, you might just get the job, and it’s little moments like this that prove that no, in fact, you won’t always fail. 5.) Understand reality.
Low self-confidence has a way of warping reality. If you aren’t getting along with one person, you may exaggerate it to feel that no one likes you. In addition, the idea that people are laughing at you or that someone else is able to do the job
better than you are both examples of a warped reality.
Instead of letting yourself get carried away, stop, breathe and think. Are people really laughing at you? No! The reality is that they've got their own problems to deal with. There is no point in terrifying yourself over something that, realistically, won’t even happen!
Fact: you need teamwork. In order for any organization (a place of business, your family, a charity, etc.) to run successfully, its members need to understand the concept of effective teamwork
And therein appears the essential word: effective.
It’s one thing to say you are running a team, but it’s quite another to run that team effectively. Here are a few ways to make sure your team is truly living up to its potential. 1.) Have clearly defined goals.
In order to get the most out of your team, you need to have a clearly defined goal that you are working toward as a group. In addition, it’s important to be specific. “Increase efficiency” sounds good, but it’s a horrible goal because it could mean anything. “Increase the amount work orders processed between 3:00 and 5:00 pm” on the other hand, lets everyone know exactly
what they are working toward and what will be considered a success. If they found a way to increase the amount of work orders processed between 10:00 and 11:00 in the morning, for example, it would be increasing efficiency, but not in the specific way you might want it to be increased. 2.) Break up the work.
Delegating one specific task to one person and another specific task to another person lessons the burden of the problem. It takes a huge, intimidating obstacle and turns it into many small, manageable obstacles. Plus, it gives each person a part of the solution that they can be accountable for. 3.) Hold frequent meetings to review progress.
If a specific person is unaware of the progress being made by other members of the group, they can start to feel like they are doing all the work, even though they are still in charge of a single component. Having meetings to discuss progress gives team
members a chance to see the progress of the issue as a whole.
Furthermore, frequent meetings allows the team to see what is working and what is not, and provides a chance for people to offer valuable input. 4.) Do the little things.
Like any job, working on one thing for a long period of time can be grueling, so try to lighten the mood occasionally. Think you aren’t there to bring your employees donuts and juice when they should be happy they simply have a job? Fair enough, but this isn’t an article about how to spoil your employees, it’s an article about how to get the most out of your team. Little things go a long way, so suck it up and bring in some muffins once in a while. 5.) Celebrate successes publicly.
Did your team accomplish the goal? Let everyone know! Announce it in the company newsletter and list the team members that made it possible. Have a company celebratory pot luck and let participating team members wear matching T-shirts to stand out. When the team gets to take credit for the solution
, it makes them more eager to solve other problems, and when team members are publicly praised for their work, it makes other members of the company eager to participate in solving the next company issue.
Ah, the age old battle between productivity
and procrastination. I have to admit, I’m quite skilled in creating a clever way to avoid boring tasks that need to be done, but at some point even I have to just bear down and do it. There are a few things that tend to help though, so here are my top 10. 1.) Be healthy.
This means you need to eat well, get enough sleep and make sure to make time to exercise regularly. Feeling unproductive can be a vicious cycle; you feel exhausted so you don’t exercise, so you feel even more
exhausted. Go for a run in the morning or a swim after work, eat an apple with peanut butter for your midmorning snack and get to bed at a reasonable time. All of this pays off dividends in the end. 2.) Make a list, prioritize it and stick to it!
Making a list of everything you need to get done is a great way to jumpstart your productivity. Often, just seeing everything written down and organized (instead of jumbled up in your head) will help you calm down. Put your most urgent and important tasks at the top, and get started. And feel free to use a little secret of mine; write down a few things that you have already done and cross them off. Look; you’ve already made some progress! 3.) Make a schedule.
That means setting 2 or 3 constant times to check your email. Checking it constantly throughout the day is a huge productivity killer. 4.) Time each task. Setting a goa
l for how long you’ll work often makes a task less overwhelming. Think about it; instead of telling yourself, “Okay, I’m going to work for 10 hours today,” say, “I’m going to spend the next 30 minutes working on this spreadsheet.” At the end of the 30 minutes, re-evaluate, and set another timed goal. 5.) Remove distractions.
While you may think
you work better with the television on, basic psychological principles beg to differ. Your brain has to use energy to focus on each individual thing going on around it, so that background noise is actually taking up valuable energy. It’s the same reason it’s recommended to focus on one specific job rather than multi-tasking.6.) Think, “Would I miss this?”
This is a simple trick to be able to tell if you’re procrastinating or not. If you think about everything you’re trying to do in a day, would you miss the current task you’re working on? If you didn’t get a chance to play that game of solitaire, would your day really
suffer for it? Probably not. 7.) Stay positive.
As stressful as you may be, remember, you’re making progress. You have more done now than you did this morning, and you’ll have more done in a few hours than you do right now. 8.) Do what you love.
You really should love what you’re doing, even if it’s not particularly enjoyable at the moment. Make sure you’re thinking big picture; writing that report may be daunting, but it’s going to be putting you one step closer to your dream job, right? And spending hours analyzing statistics may sound dreadful, but if the results could help make a positive difference
, isn’t it all worth it? And if you can’t find any enjoyment out of what you are doing, it might be time for a different list of priorities. 9.) Reward Yourself.
If you’ve been good at sticking to your to-do list, make sure you reward yourself at the end of the day. Personally, I might choose to watch one of my favorite television programs with a glass of wine, completely undisturbed, meaning no email
. 10.) Just DO it already.
Yes, you have to take the first step! Turn off the television, put your cell phone to the side, get a glass of water, make a list and get going!
What are some tips you have for being productive?